Comments on: The Standard Questions http://www.bailingbucket.com/the-standard-questions/ Rhett is here to save you Mon, 06 Feb 2012 23:01:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Rhett Soveran http://www.bailingbucket.com/the-standard-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-2560 Rhett Soveran Tue, 06 Oct 2009 18:25:43 +0000 http://www.bailingbucket.com/?p=794#comment-2560 Thanks Jess. :) Thanks Jess. :)

]]> By: Jess http://www.bailingbucket.com/the-standard-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-2547 Jess Fri, 11 Sep 2009 03:50:14 +0000 http://www.bailingbucket.com/?p=794#comment-2547 Wow...Rhett...I really loved reading this post of yours! :) Wow…Rhett…I really loved reading this post of yours! :)

]]> By: Adam http://www.bailingbucket.com/the-standard-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-2388 Adam Wed, 04 Feb 2009 16:34:00 +0000 http://www.bailingbucket.com/?p=794#comment-2388 Great post, this sums up my experiences leading to the present - the baby questions. Great post, this sums up my experiences leading to the present – the baby questions.

]]> By: Rhett Soveran http://www.bailingbucket.com/the-standard-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-2380 Rhett Soveran Mon, 02 Feb 2009 20:04:27 +0000 http://www.bailingbucket.com/?p=794#comment-2380 Generally, I do like to respond to everyone that takes the time to comment. But there's so much here. So I will just say thanks to everyone who responded, both serious and funny. Generally, I do like to respond to everyone that takes the time to comment. But there’s so much here. So I will just say thanks to everyone who responded, both serious and funny.

]]> By: Curtis http://www.bailingbucket.com/the-standard-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-2376 Curtis Fri, 30 Jan 2009 16:58:58 +0000 http://www.bailingbucket.com/?p=794#comment-2376 I am crying at my desk this is your best post yet, so relevant and deep (not being a very deep person) I loved it. On cloning - don't give Rhett any idea's LGR sounds like he wants you to have babies... My mom says we (my sister and I) have absolutely made her life wonderful, she speaks so unbelievably highly about the entire ordeal. I of course see the other side, we have put her through hell and back and she loves every minute of it... crazy I have visted 3 newborns over the past week and have 2 more to visit and 2 more on the way... great comment Genie, I have this talk with my grandparents constantly, I find it entirely ammusing. "Now Curtis you know the story about the cows looking over the fence into the greener pasture, well it always looks greener on the other side of the fence.... I am that cow or something in there eyes... you would have to be there, quite amusing" Dougs last comment - see Rhett your dad still loves you even though you didn't do chemistry or physics.. hehe Personally I can't wait to have a little clone. Rhett do you remember when I would call and sometimes have to beg for you to come out and play (hockey, ball, etc), with my little clone I will be able to force him/her to play with me whenever I want!! hehe can't wait!! don't worry world (Rhett's blog readers) I am not ready to procreate yet, and my girlfriend Emily is absolutely strict on 'safety first'!! I will leave you with one of my favourite quotes "Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in, broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming, WOW, What a ride!" cd I am crying at my desk this is your best post yet, so relevant and deep (not being a very deep person) I loved it.

On cloning – don’t give Rhett any idea’s

LGR sounds like he wants you to have babies…

My mom says we (my sister and I) have absolutely made her life wonderful, she speaks so unbelievably highly about the entire ordeal. I of course see the other side, we have put her through hell and back and she loves every minute of it… crazy

I have visted 3 newborns over the past week and have 2 more to visit and 2 more on the way…

great comment Genie, I have this talk with my grandparents constantly, I find it entirely ammusing. “Now Curtis you know the story about the cows looking over the fence into the greener pasture, well it always looks greener on the other side of the fence…. I am that cow or something in there eyes… you would have to be there, quite amusing”

Dougs last comment – see Rhett your dad still loves you even though you didn’t do chemistry or physics.. hehe

Personally I can’t wait to have a little clone. Rhett do you remember when I would call and sometimes have to beg for you to come out and play (hockey, ball, etc), with my little clone I will be able to force him/her to play with me whenever I want!! hehe can’t wait!!

don’t worry world (Rhett’s blog readers) I am not ready to procreate yet, and my girlfriend Emily is absolutely strict on ‘safety first’!!

I will leave you with one of my favourite quotes “Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in, broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming, WOW, What a ride!”

cd

]]> By: Jen Chase http://www.bailingbucket.com/the-standard-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-2375 Jen Chase Wed, 28 Jan 2009 22:25:40 +0000 http://www.bailingbucket.com/?p=794#comment-2375 A story to prove my point: I was at St. Peter's one Sunday last year, and someone put their hand on my belly and asked if there was anyone in there. I DO NOT LOOK PREGNANT. (Kristin can verify this!). Since I'm not pregnant, it was annoying. If we were trying to get pregnant and couldn't, I would have left church in tears. If I was pregnant and not telling people yet, I would have had to lie. In other words, what good comes from a question like that?? A story to prove my point:

I was at St. Peter’s one Sunday last year, and someone put their hand on my belly and asked if there was anyone in there. I DO NOT LOOK PREGNANT. (Kristin can verify this!).

Since I’m not pregnant, it was annoying. If we were trying to get pregnant and couldn’t, I would have left church in tears. If I was pregnant and not telling people yet, I would have had to lie.

In other words, what good comes from a question like that??

]]> By: Jen Chase http://www.bailingbucket.com/the-standard-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-2374 Jen Chase Wed, 28 Jan 2009 22:20:12 +0000 http://www.bailingbucket.com/?p=794#comment-2374 Hi Doug, Thanks for your words of wisdom. It's no wonder my parents (Gerald and Mary) like you and Kristin so much - you're so much alike! I do agree with you. Mike and I certainly want kids, and we're aware (as much as we can be pre-kids) of the joys and trials that they bring. Right now, we love our friends kids. :) I'm doing my masters online right now - a plan that seems foolhardy to some when I could be making babies instead. BUT I know that this is God's plan for me right now. I have learned so much about myself, life, what I want in a career, and I'm being challenged in ways that make me a better person, which will make me a better mothers. (And there are non-bloggable reasons as well, which I can't share here). All that to say, while the standard questions may not intend to hurt, sometimes they do. Hi Doug,

Thanks for your words of wisdom. It’s no wonder my parents (Gerald and Mary) like you and Kristin so much – you’re so much alike!

I do agree with you. Mike and I certainly want kids, and we’re aware (as much as we can be pre-kids) of the joys and trials that they bring. Right now, we love our friends kids. :)

I’m doing my masters online right now – a plan that seems foolhardy to some when I could be making babies instead. BUT I know that this is God’s plan for me right now. I have learned so much about myself, life, what I want in a career, and I’m being challenged in ways that make me a better person, which will make me a better mothers. (And there are non-bloggable reasons as well, which I can’t share here).

All that to say, while the standard questions may not intend to hurt, sometimes they do.

]]> By: Doug http://www.bailingbucket.com/the-standard-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-2373 Doug Wed, 28 Jan 2009 21:53:26 +0000 http://www.bailingbucket.com/?p=794#comment-2373 I knew after I hit the 'submit' I should have added the qualifier "...NOTHING better for me than having children." I've experienced lots of success at different things in my life but nothing matches how I feel in terms of raising my children. Reading some implied message in anyone's words is risky - Adam's interpretation of what I was saying is off the mark. If there was an implied message it was that if one chooses/is able to have children there will almost certain satisfaction with that choice. Most people wrestle with the decision of becoming parents and some of the uncertainty around it (at least for me) was related to the fact it was not a choice that could be undone. The heart of my message is that if you choose to have kids you won't regret it. I knew after I hit the ‘submit’ I should have added the qualifier “…NOTHING better for me than having children.” I’ve experienced lots of success at different things in my life but nothing matches how I feel in terms of raising my children. Reading some implied message in anyone’s words is risky – Adam’s interpretation of what I was saying is off the mark. If there was an implied message it was that if one chooses/is able to have children there will almost certain satisfaction with that choice. Most people wrestle with the decision of becoming parents and some of the uncertainty around it (at least for me) was related to the fact it was not a choice that could be undone. The heart of my message is that if you choose to have kids you won’t regret it.

]]> By: Genie http://www.bailingbucket.com/the-standard-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-2372 Genie Wed, 28 Jan 2009 21:42:58 +0000 http://www.bailingbucket.com/?p=794#comment-2372 Oh, how tired I have become of these "Standard Questions." The question of marriage is currently the most annoying. "When I bloody feel like it, lady," is not an appropriate thing to say to your grandmother, as it turns out. Oh, how tired I have become of these “Standard Questions.”
The question of marriage is currently the most annoying.
“When I bloody feel like it, lady,” is not an appropriate thing to say to your grandmother, as it turns out.

]]> By: Adam Snider http://www.bailingbucket.com/the-standard-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-2371 Adam Snider Wed, 28 Jan 2009 20:51:47 +0000 http://www.bailingbucket.com/?p=794#comment-2371 Ah, the old "are you going to be a teacher?" question. I hated that one. On rare occasions, I still get it, despite the fact that I'm relatively happy working as a copywriter. As for the "there is nothing better than having kids" thing that got raised in the comments, and gets raised quite often in this kind of discussion: I don't buy it. If you choose to become a parent, yes, it's very likely that nothing will ever be better than having children. I hope to have kids one day, and I suspect that when I do, that will be the best thing to happen to me. But, implying that there is nothing better seems to imply that people who choose not to have kids (or who can't have kids) are missing out on something, that they're somehow not living the fullest life possible because they don't have kids. Personally, I find that kind of offensive. And this is coming from someone who wants to have kids one day, so imagine how people who don't want to have kids feel about a statement like that. Ah, the old “are you going to be a teacher?” question. I hated that one. On rare occasions, I still get it, despite the fact that I’m relatively happy working as a copywriter.

As for the “there is nothing better than having kids” thing that got raised in the comments, and gets raised quite often in this kind of discussion: I don’t buy it.

If you choose to become a parent, yes, it’s very likely that nothing will ever be better than having children. I hope to have kids one day, and I suspect that when I do, that will be the best thing to happen to me. But, implying that there is nothing better seems to imply that people who choose not to have kids (or who can’t have kids) are missing out on something, that they’re somehow not living the fullest life possible because they don’t have kids.

Personally, I find that kind of offensive. And this is coming from someone who wants to have kids one day, so imagine how people who don’t want to have kids feel about a statement like that.

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